Who Wants to Be in Love?

Everyone wants to be in love!
I live in a little coastal village in California and work in my own gallery/studio on a quiet street, off the beaten path, yet still in the village. Everyday people wander in an out and reveal their lives as they look through the happy things they see. It is amazing to me to observe how many men and women seek love and the benefits they hope it will bring to their lives. It is amazing to me to see how many people are lacking that love in their lives.
When I ask people what they really want in a loved one, some of them can describe the person, some cannot. Some believe their right person exists, some do not. Some are looking to fill a void in their life, some are looking to make an addition.
But, when it comes down to it. everyone wants to be in love. Love seems to be the answer to all kinds of questions, the solution to all kinds of problems. Fine! Fine! But how to get that right person, the one to be in love with, is the secret.
After a bit of study, lots of observation and a good deal of experience it seems to me that a person has to know for sure what they want, rather than who they want. They need to know the qualities they want in another. To me high on that list is goodness. It is a great quality to insist upon in a loved one. I don't know how many people think of this, but it is extremely important. It covers a whole group of things like kindness, truthfulness, politeness, graciousness, unselfishness, generosity, and wholesomeness. To be good is more than following the rules. It is a sincere and essential quality of the heart. It lasts.
By Sally Huss