Monday, June 29, 2009

Why Men Leave Marriages - Tips to Avoid Ending a Relationship by Marty Barton

Ending a relationship can be one of the hardest things that a person can do. The emotional strain and the feelings of loss can have an enormous impact on anyone going through such a predicament. So, why do men leave marriages?
There are some men, who don't want to be with just one woman for sexual reasons. There are some men who feel they have outgrown their wife. This happens often where the wife is at home with the kids and he finds that he is no longer attracted to her and would rather seek the attention of a work colleague. This is an awful situation, but sadly, it is more common than you would care to imagine.
It is not the easiest thing in the world for two people to live with each other and go on and forge a happy life together. There are many couples that have done this and have had wonderful marriages. Sadly, there are many couples that have tried (and tried hard in some instances) but have failed and the marriage has ended.
If you are having marriage problems and don't want to wind up in the divorce courts, you should take steps to make sure that you don't find yourself ending a relationship that could have been saved. Why men leave marriages is because they haven't been able to fix what was wrong in the marriage. This is where the right help can enable you to determine why the marriage struggled and what is needed to overcome your problems. Many relationships end because the parties simply don't work hard enough on the root cause of the problem.
In cases where the problem is detected and a plan put in place to overcome the problem, couples are well placed to move forward especially if their love is strong. It is a great tragedy that many good marriages have fallen by the way side when they should not have.
In summary, there are two types of men - those that are contented being in a monogamous relationship and those that aren't. Those that aren't are constantly restless and prone to having affairs. They generally will struggle to commit to just one person and will have trouble remaining married. They really do have problems and need help to work out what they can do to be more contented in their married life. If you are in this position and you have a fair idea why men leave marriages, the quicker you seek this help the better.
If you are going through hard times, please understand that you are not alone and that there is help available right here. 

Thursday, June 25, 2009

The Romance of Envelopes By Samantha Black

You may replace letters with text message in this technological age, learn it and spice up your relationship...

Letters have a romantic air to them, but do not forget the romance of the envelopes that contain them as well. Write down a return address and a send to address and affix a stamp and suddenly an envelope becomes an amazing mode of transportation that can carry an important business document, a casual greeting to a friend, or the feelings of love from one person to another.

These envelopes that are wrapped around sheets of paper with only their addresses and stamps giving the faintest clue to what they hold within may leave one intrigued as to what may be discovered inside.

Envelopes may be purchased and come in many sizes or colors. Or you can make your own envelopes from magazine pages or any other scrap paper lying around that is large enough. Simply take apart another envelope and use it as your template. Or the piece of paper you plan to write your letter on can also be folded in a way known as origami, the Japanese art of paper folding, so that it becomes both letter and envelope.

In the modern world with its technological advances of computers, Internet, and e-mail the use of envelopes may not be as common anymore or seem that important. But the use of envelopes and the letters within them may be more important than ever because of those things. A letter and envelope may seem more personal than an email.

The tactile feel of the envelope as fingers touch its skin of paper, the visual appeal of handwritten or typed words in ink, the moment of cutting or tearing open the envelope that has been sealed to keep away prying eyes of all but the one the letter was intended for all these things and more make the seemingly ordinary and often taken for granted envelopes, something that is instead rather special if one takes the time to notice.

Monday, June 22, 2009

How is Asking Out a Friend a Bad Idea? - Being More Than Just a Friend and Its Issues

To every issus there is always the part that so many of us will never agrre to, of course we are human our ideas and believe differs, hence the reason I have decided to post the article below:

Asking out a friend is a bad idea. Falling in love with a friend is - at best - awkward.
You know the person well, and can't help but think of how perfect you'd be together. Not only have you shared a lot, but you know their strengths and weaknesses. You feel like soul mates.
While some friendships bloom into romance, I have to be frank...most do not. Furthermore, by revealing your emotions to your friend, you risk the relationship you already have with them. Read on to learn why asking out a friend is a bad idea.
It's bound to happen.
When you're extremely tight with someone, you can't imagine your life without them. You feel almost a spiritual bond with them, and this can often be similar to feelings of love. In truth, you probably do love them, but the relationship's foundation is not sexual. It's this very comradeship that makes dating a friend a bad idea.
Things will change.
I know what it's like to have a crush on a friend. Holding in your feelings is like torture, but beware of letting them loose. Mentioning romantic emotions to your friend will change the dynamic of your relationship. Even if they assure you that nothing will change, it's bound to happen. In my case, the girl told me I was still her best friend, but our time together grew less and less. Even today, the vibe between us is forever changed.
"So what do I do?"
First, don't talk about your feelings to anyone. Expressing your emotions gives them life, making it impossible to move on. From there, think about all of the other singles to date, and meet them. Don't close yourself off to others, as you could miss out on a great romance. Feel grateful for having such a wonderful person in your life, but know that asking out a friend is a bad idea. Within time, your feelings for your friend will subside.

I do not totally agree with Zack but what do you think? 

I love you and you say you love me so why are you backing off im still waiting for your answer. So what that we are far away we havent talked about getting together and yo havent gotten back to me ,and it is killing me inside. love you baby i hope we make it
Message from Love Message

Friday, June 19, 2009

Advice to Win Back Your Love - Don't Hate Yourself For Missing This By Nix Stokes

It's easier to watch a breakup through someone else's eyes. Pat your friend on the shoulder and tell them it's going to be okay, and they're better off now. But then, it happens to you and the next thing you know you're sitting on the couch with a carton of ice cream in one hand, and the remote in the other. You're sitting there like a poor sap, crying your eyes out convincing yourself that there is no way to win back your love.
Well, what if it didn't have to be this way? There is a method to the madness, a way to get your love back, and you'll no longer be an emotional disaster.
First off, hide your cell phone and stay away from your computer. Professing your never ending love to your ex is only going to drive them further away. Yes I know, it sounds like terrible advice. Of course you want to tell them exactly how you feel every five minutes, why won't this bring them back?
It's because they haven't had a chance to miss you yet.
Do yourself a favor and suck it up for about ten minutes, call up a mutual friend (preferably one that will go blabbing to your ex) and tell them that you think it's a good idea you split up. The time apart is going to help you discover more about yourself and help you learn to survive on your own, without your ex.
When your ex hears this it's going to be a major slap in the face. Here they were, living in glory at you're suffering at home. Thinking of all the ways you're going to come running back to them, and all of a sudden they hear that you're doing what! You're doing just fine without them, you didn't collapse and die! The wheels are set into motion now, and your ex is going to start thinking about you again and this is how you win back your love!
You see, the way to get your ex back isn't by stalking them into oblivion, you have to convince yourself (and those around you) that you're just fine. Human nature isn't going to allow your ex to feel good about this, even if it's just subconsciously at first.
Eventually they're going to make contact, so keep it simple. Talk like friends, the way you did when you first got together. Bringing back those old fond memories is going to get things started again. It just takes a little bit of time and patience on your part to win back your love.

No one can replace you in my heart, and if anybody wants to replace it, tha't the time I will stop my heart beating. ( message from Love Messages)

Wednesday, June 17, 2009

What Are the Elements of Love? By Marteshia Pittman

Love is an emotions that is expressed in many different ways. It is how this emotion is expressed that determines if it is true. Love is expressed through words, body language, feelings, thoughts and even certain looks.

Often times, people express their love by simply saying, "I love you." It's always great to hear, but how do you really know? It really doesn't matter how long you have been with someone, because love has no sense of time. It's not always about what is being said, but how the message is being conveyed.

Men and women both use nonverbals to express their love for one another; it could be a simple kiss, holding of the hands, the way you hug, the manner in which you touch, or the way you move when interacting with that special someone. So often of times, it's the "unspoken" that has the most impact on an individual. Other ways you can tell if love is real for you, is how a person makes you feel inside.

When real love is present, more often than not, people experience warm feelings, feelings of excitement for a particular person, confidence, a sense of being wanted and needed, or it can even be explained as a breath of fresh air. Although when in a relationship, times can sometimes be trying, love is a happy feeling. Women sometimes revert back to their high school years and get that girly feeling all over again. Men, although wanting to portray a sense of toughness or being macho, sometimes become a bit more subtle or reserved. Sometimes things come out that people thought they had lost years ago; love can do that you know. There is also not being able to get a person out of your mind.

There is nothing more sweet and romantic than being with someone for years and continuing to have those same feelings for each other as if just meeting. When a person reaches the level of loving someone, that person stays on his or her mind and almost everything is a reminder of that special someone. A song reminds you of a particular evening or you get a whiff of someone's cologne or perfume that brings that special someone to mind. There are so many things that when in love, reminds you of the other person, but aside from thinking of that person; there is nothing like the looks received when two people love each other.

There is a look for everything. When in love, there is a look (no words) of anger, disappointment, sexual want, happiness and anything else that can be thought of. True love, inspite of life's trials and tribulations, is a beautiful thing. There is no more wonderful feeling than the unspoken communication between the person or persons in love. Love is a positive feeling, there should be no harmful elements to loving someone if it is real.

If these elements are in place, one could and probably would say that a person is in love. Anything other than these wonderful feelings, a person may need to re-evaluate his or her relationship. With that being said love is what love does, so if a person is not making the one he or she is involved with feel happy, supported, wanted, needed and good in every way they know how, love is probably not the word that needs to be used.

 Below is a Message from Love Message
I’m not going to stand here and say I love you, because personally I don’t know if I even know what love feels like. So I’ll say that I can’t stop thinking about you.
I always feel like I should be holding your hand when I’m walking down a sidewalk. I keep setting another table place setting in dinner because I don’t want to eat without you.
I wake up every morning wondering if you are wondering about me. I sleep wishing I’m in your dreams tonight. I take an extra 5 minutes in my usual 7 minute prayer to beg God to guide you through the day safely. I no longer like being left alone.
I keep searching for you anywhere possible even though I know you can’t be here.
So if that’s love, so be it. I’m in love with you, totally, truly, madly.


Wednesday, June 10, 2009

Tips For a Better Relationship

I would love to write on every tip that I have read, seen and practice in a love relationship or what do you think? In a love relationship, it is not just about the first date, we all want a love affair that would last the test of time and even survive the storm that life would sometimes present to us. In life we all want to be loved - that is what all humans desire. In a love affair there always the place for growth in all ramifications of life (spiritual, intellectual, emotional and financial). In every love affair to end in what we all desire, THE DESIRE must be in our heart to make it work. If a love relationship is to work out there is a sacrifice that is to be paid by both parties.
I will ask you some basic questions now in my bid to test your desire for your love: Do you love him/her? What does she/he mean to you? Can he/she go through hard times with you? What is her/his favourite colour? Lastly, can you describe the colour of her eyes in different mood? I got this this to add from Emily Chase book;make your date a memory and not just about the food or dance, in that book she gave an example of a guy that invited his girlfriend for dinner at a restaurant, the girl knew that in their community, there is no such place for a dinner, the girl came as planned but on getting to the guy's house she was given a wonderful dinner she would never forget for the rest of her, when next I write I would give the full details of that wonderful date (dinner).
But before I go I'll want you to know that your love relationship requires your patience with your love no matter the changes that occur and allow the love to grow. The following are excerpt from a woman I respect so much enjoy it and practice them as you grow in your love affair:
(1) We make our decisions in life. We are not totally helpless. We determine our own direction.
(2) Sometimes, purposely avoiding arguments and differences can be more destructive to a relationship than the airing of those differences.
(3) There is strength in conformity, but we must have the wisdom to know when to stand alone (set your standards).
(4) It is sometimes the inexpensive, little acts of love that keep the spark of romance alive.
(5) If you are in a relationship with a WINNER, you only have two choices, get in gear and move to the top with him/her or get left behind.
(6) When two people work together, toward the same goal, they get there faster.
(7) Words are awfully important to a woman. Tell her how you feel about her.
(8) Always remember to tell him/her that you love him/her(that's only if you really do anyway).

I know one thing for sure that as far as you are ready to learn, you are on your way to your LOVE AFFAIR DREAMLAND. In this article I have talked about your desire, which is all that you need to make a relationship work, always remember humans are not perfect but we can improve and move towards perfection

Monday, June 8, 2009

How to Plan a Day's Worth of Romance - That Something Special For That Someone Special

If you really want to impress that special someone, treat them to a day's worth of romance. Whether it's for a special occasion, or "just because," you're sure to score major brownie points with this idea. Read on to learn how.
Approach the day like a scavenger hunt, and start it with a special love note. Direct your partner to a specific location in the house, such as the kitchen, and make sure the note is romantic. A message like, "Breakfast is ready downstairs. Eat and enjoy yourself," would be nice.
When he or she gets to the kitchen, there should be another note waiting for them. On the envelope, instruct them to not open it until they've finished eating. When they do read it, the note should send them to another area in the house, where they'll find a special present. Flowers or candy are good ideas, as they're romantic, but don't cost too much.
Continue leading them with notes, and get imaginative! A good idea would be to send them into the living room to watch their favorite movie. Interrupt the film by having flowers delivered. When she opens the card, make sure it instructs her to get ready for a romantic evening out.
From there, the sky's the limit. You can take your love to a fancy dinner, or maybe even spend the night in a gorgeous hotel. Another good idea would be to rent a limo, and have it pick her up at a set time. There's no limit to what you can do!
Just as long as you pack the day full of excitement and romance, they'll be impressed. By thinking outside the box, it's easy to create a day's worth of romance, not to mention lasting memories.
By Zack Aby 
I am going to play a song but your heartbeat is my drums that all i need for bass because your heart gives me everything and if i had one more thing to say is i love you and i hope you will remember this day.
Note from Love Messages 

Friday, June 5, 2009

True Love in Action

Your love is the most precious thing i have,Your pulses of heart are the only melody i love,Your sentences are the reason of my peace.To the end of the world i will say I Love you my love
Message from Love Message
You know, most of us relate to true love like it is only an emotion. A private inner feeling. And sometimes it is an inner feeling that we feel the need to protect or hide from the object of our love. Like if we express it we are vulnerable and we might get rejected or it might not be fully reciprocated.
But what if true love was more like a beacon of light that was supposed to shine and illuminate the world around us? Instead of being hidden or kept safe, what if true love was meant to be translated into acts and expressions of love as often as possible?
True love is meant to be expressed. It is meant to be given away freely. It is not supposed to be just a private inner feeling. So when you feel true love in your life, find ways to act on it. Give it away. Shine its light into the world around you. Turn your love into action.
True love is best replenished by expressing it into direct action. If you are fortunate enough to feel some love, find ways to express it directly. Show it off, shine it's light into your world.
How can you do this? There are many ways, but one good way is to listen. Listen to your mate or love like your life depends upon it. Focus completely on what they are saying. Listening in this way is a powerful gift to give to another person. Making them feel heard and understood when they share with you is a very generous and nurturing act.
Another powerful way to turn love into action is with direct eye contact. Drink them in, looking them right in the eye, as you converse. The eyes are the windows to the soul. Amazingly, studies show that direct eye contact fades in relationships over time. Don't just look at the area of the eyes, make direct eye contact and see how that feels for you and your mate.
And then of course a powerful expression of true love is touch. Not just sexual touch, but outside the bedroom. Just brushing their arm, giving hugs, these are direct expressions of affection that touch the heart easily.
There's a lot more to expressing love, but listening, looking and touching are always a good foundation. Don't keep the light of your love under a bushel basket. Take it off and let it shine as often as you can, and see what a difference in makes in your - and our - world. Turn it into little actions to make it more real.