Rules Governing Relationships

If you have read the book, 15 Universal Laws of Relationships then these laws will not be new to you but if you haven't read it, you can have the main part of the book below:

The 1st Universal Law of Relationships is: There is no free lunch. The old saying goes: love is blind, and that is undeniably true. In those initial stages of infatuation with each other, you see no evil and hear no evil. There is the common belief that love conquers everything, and the rest of your life together will be moonlight and roses. I am very sorry to burst that bubble, because even though love is a very powerful emotion, it is not a panacea for everything that can go wrong in a relationship.

Do not get me wrong. New love is most probably the best experience in your life. It is incredibly emotional, and the feelings you experience is almost impossible to describe in words. It is simultaneously the biggest feeling of joy and pain one can experience. But it is good to be pre-warned that this state of euphoria is not going to last forever. Sooner or later, like a new automobile, the novelty wears off, there are some breakdowns and some maintenance is required.

The truth of the matter is that a relationship is quid pro quo. If you do something for me, I'll reciprocate. If you do nothing, you are not going to get anything in return. Love is not free, even though a lot of lovers may disagree with me. If you give love, you expect to be loved in return. If this does not happen, the relationship will break down very quickly. This rule is the foundation of every relationship, and not taking cognizance of it, is a dire risk.

I recently did a little online survey in which I asked how far a partner would go to make sure that something like being obese will not ruin their marriage. The answers shocked me. Almost without fail they said that if the other partner do not like the way they look, he or she knows what they can do. To say that I found this immensely selfish and egocentric is an understatement.

Take the following scenario, for example: The couple is in their mid thirties and married for ten years. They are both university graduates, but the husband holds a corporate job, whilst the wife is a lawyer with her own practice. Over the years the husband has become disillusioned with his career and turned into a real couch potato, neglecting his appearance and gaining a substantial amount of weight. The wife on the other had, despite two children, is doing well in her practice, goes to gym regularly and has maintained a pretty good figure. She now feels her husband is letting her down, because he is a bit of an embarrassment at social functions and when entertaining important clients. Would it be unreasonable of her to ask him to join her at the gym and do something about his appearance? In my book certainly not.

At this stage he is enjoying all the benefits. He has got a wife with a beautiful body; she is successful, contributes a lot to the household and is an example to the children and the community. Unfortunately the same cannot be said for him, aside from the financial contribution that he makes. If he refuses to reciprocate, can one then blame the wife if she starts looking for a more suitable partner?

That is the 1st Universal Law of Relationships: Do not expect to get the benefit of something without doing something in return. And this law or rule does not only hold true in personal relationships, it is also valid in your work scenario. Your company pays you in return for the input that you give. No input equals no payment and no job.

The truth of the matter is that every relationship is fraught with challenges and potential problems. And unless both partners are prepared for these and willing to work hard together to resolve it, the relationship will not succeed or last.

Long Distance Relationship Advice - Three Keys to Making it Work

I am not a long distance relationship advocate but sometimes thing just happen that way that we can't control what life will throw at us, hence the posting of this article on making long distance relationship work, enjoy the excerpt but learn the lessons and take them to heart;

The way people move around these days more and more of us are looking for long distance relationship advice. Here are 3 key tips from both my personal experience and my research that will help your relationship survive over a distance.
The first thing you and your partner need to do is to be clear on just what the parameters of the relationship are and to what degree are you committed to each other? Obviously there's a big difference in a relationship that's a few weeks old and one that has been exclusive for over a year.
How long do you expect the separation to last? How often will it be practical to see each other? Are you at a stage in your commitment where you both won't date other people, or is that OK with you both?
Some of these questions, especially about dating others, may be a little awkward, but they need to be addressed up-front. Doing so will prevent misunderstandings and heartbreak later.
Besides, any good relationship should be built on understanding and communication. Having that conversation will build those skills.
The next thing needed to form a solid foundation is to develop a positive attitude about the separation. That's not to say you'll look forward to it or prefer that your partner is away, but it does mean you'll make the most of the situation you're in.
When we're involved in a close relationship, most of us let other interests, such as hobbies and other friends, slide a little bit. The time away from your partner is a good opportunity to pay more attention to these other areas.
Some people use it as an opportunity to put more effort into their studies or career.
Another positive way of looking at the situation is that it will give you the opportunity to be creative in maintaining it, which brings me to the third key tip.
Take advantage of modern technology while continuing to use the old.
The traditional method for separated lovers to communicate was the written word. Later the telephone came along. Today, as you well know, there are a lot more options. By all means take advantage of texting and web cams, but remember that nothing will ever replace the romance of a love letter. Writing your sweetie regularly, even you text several times a day and see each other on Skype every night, will help your relationship greatly dring your time apart.

Let's face it, a big fear we all have when we're separated form our lover is that the romance will fade for the relationship or that we'll grow apart or that one person or the other will find someone else. It doesn't have to be that way, but we can't take it for granted that it won't. These three keys are a good start.
By Sandra Williamson.

Commitment: Tips on How to Make a Relationship Work

If everybody already knew how to make a relationship work we would all still be with the first man or woman we fell in love with, but that is not the case. It takes some people years of anguish and heartache to learn how to make a relationship work.  Even then your relationship is unlikely to last unless you are prepared to put what you have learned into practice. If you have just met someone you feel strongly for and you want to know how to make a relationship work then the first thing you need to realize is that it is not easy. In order to have a fulfilling romantic relationship with another individual you must follow three basic rules.

Loyalty And Effort

People who know how to make a relationship work will do whatever is necessary to be with the other person, within reason. The truth is that relationships are like bank accounts. If you keep putting money into the bank then eventually you will be financially comfortable. Conversely if you persistently draw out more than you put in your bank account will soon be empty. Similarly if you take more than you give in a relationship your partner will soon realize there is nothing in it for them. If you both put the work into your relationship then it will blossom and grow. The key is not to get too comfortable and start taking your partner and the love they give you for granted.

Stick To Your Principles

If you sacrifice your values and principles in order to be with the one you love then you do not really know how to make a relationship work, even if you have been married for forty years. Too many people feel taken for granted, abused or neglected by their partner but do not speak up for fear of losing the relationship. Consequently resentment builds up and festers for years until they eventually explode because they cannot take it anymore. Couples who know how to make a relationship work tell each other when there is something they are unhappy or uncomfortable with. This gets things into the open, which is often all that is required to resolve the situation.

Make Time To Be Together
Happily married couples who have been together for years and know how to make a relationship work understand the importance of friendship. Your partner should not just be the person you go to bed with. He or she should also be someone you can laugh, cry and debate with. Your partner should be the person with whom you explore new places and try new experiences. If you know how to make a relationship work you will make time to hang out with the person you love even if you work eighty hours per week.

Commitment:How to Make Your Man Be Committed to a Lasting Relationship

Very few of us are interested in establishing a relationship with a guy just to pass some time. As women, we would like the guys to be committed to the relationships. Yet achieving this usually proves quite a difficult task for many of us.
 
It is usually frustrating but common for many guys who say they are in love to fail to commit to a marriage relationship. It is a strange fact that many of the guys do not seem to be even interested in establishing a steady date.
 
As women, is there anything we can do in order to enhance a relationship that seems to get rusty just at the dating stage? The enlightening news is that there are actually a number of things that you can do in order to encourage your guy to make a more lasting commitment. These simple steps will motivate the man to have a drive for pushing things further. Here are some of these effective steps.
 
What many of us do not realize is the fact that pursuing after a guy only tends to be counterproductive. In case you have been chasing after your man, you need to change tact. You should instead start to be non committal. You will most likely meet resistance if you try to push the man to make a commitment. On the other hand, you will arouse his curiosity if you appear to be non committal.
 
If you give the impression that you have no thought of taking things any further than they are at present, you will arouse the hunting interest that men have and he will come more strongly after you. There is need of caution; however, as you should not give the impression that you are so content with being single that you will entertain no disturbance of the status quo.
 
A number of simple things will help you to drive the message home subtly. For instance, make your own plans that do not include him in any way. You may be 'busy' in other places when you know that the guy will need your presence. Instead of being available to him, you may go out with your girlfriends.
 
In case you have been in the habit of calling the guy, you should stop it, effectively driving the message that you have other matters to take care of. When the guy realizes that you are not fully in his grasp, he will not take the relationship lightly any more.
 
You also need to watch the things that you say. Ask yourself whether you are giving him a good picture that would make him enjoy your presence in a lasting commitment. For instance, you should not make the guy dread your company by giving the indication that you will nag him.
 
Such simple measures will help you to encourage your guy to be interested in considering tying the knot with you. You do not have to spend your time in constant worry as to when, or even whether, he will finally decide to settle down with you. Help him to make the decision instead. 

Are you ready NOW for a complete dating life make over?
 By Chris J Robert

How to Start Dating More Girls Now

When I read this article I felt like really showing every guy that I know, read the article below and pass it on to other guys:

Guys are often wondering what they can do to start getting more girls to like them and go on more dates. Your social life doesn't have to stay boring and uneventful, you can get out there and start getting phone numbers with just a few important pieces of information. This article will give you the tools you need to stay on top of the dating scene and begin meeting more girls and being able to talk to the ones that you like without problem.
The first thing any guy must have when attracting a girl he likes is confidence. If you don't feel comfortable with your own body and who you are as a person, then you won't be attractive to any girl. Girls can typically sense whether a guy has confidence or not. Usually guys who have confidence in themselves walk with their head up looking straight ahead. They make eye contact when talking to people, especially girls they are interested in.
Besides having confidence, being an energetic and enthusiastic person is also important. By being friendly, smiling, and introducing yourself to a girl properly with a hand shake and offering your name, you are letting her know that you are interested in her while still remaining cool and confident. You never want to appear like you are desperate to any girl, that is one of the most unattractive characteristics that girls tend to avoid in most guys, so play it cool. Don't make it seem like you aren't interested, but don't over do it at the same time.

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How to Know If a Girl Likes You - 5 Sure Shot Signs to Figure Out Whether a Girl Likes You Or Not

If you are totally infatuated with a girl but are not sure if she too likes you then do not lose your confidence. Read these 5 signs on how to know if a girl likes you and make your move if the signs indicate a yes....
Sign 1 - She does her cat scan over you. You might notice that she looks at you at regular intervals and scans you from top to bottom to top again. So, dress well and do not slouch.
Sign 2 - She smiles at you. If she likes what she scans then chances are that she will give you a shy smile or even a bold one if she too is besotted by you. If she is shy, she might look away when you look at her but if she is bold then she might just mouth out a "meow".
Sign 3 - She finds an excuse to talk to you. She might catch hold of a friend and ask to be introduced to you. Once introduced, she will certainly try to keep the conversation going while trying to gather more information about you.
Sign 4 - She gives her phone number. She might use an excuse to give her phone number to you or if she is bold enough, might directly give it to you without any hesitation. In other words, she expects you to call her up.
Sign 5 - She has singled you out. If there are other fish around you and the girl has only given attention and her number to you then she certainly likes only you. You may now break into a mental jig and plan out your first date.

These 5 signs will indicate that the girl that you like is also into you and she will indicate visually, verbally and with her body language that she is ready to be courted by you.

Do Nice Guys Always Finish Last When it Comes to Getting Girls? Here is Something You Must Not Miss

I don't like the title of this article but it is true, Read the article below:

Well it is seen often that nice guys finish last when it comes to women and dating. Indeed nice guys do finish last in most cases. There are several reasons why this happens. Being too nice at times can ruin your chances of being good with women.

Why do nice guys finish last?

They try and make the girl too comfortable so that she is attracted to you. You like to create some amount of tension in the atmosphere that can help her come close to you. What nice guys do is that they make the girl so comfortable that she ends up talking casually as if she was talking to a friend.

Nice guys do not expect to be respected- There are nice guys out there who are willing to do anything for the girl even though it is at the cost of their own self respect. They are ready to take anything that can please the girl no matter what the way his with the hope that they will get the girl they target. The point is that guys may end up losing the girl if they let her crush your self respect.

It is a natural tendency for men to chase things that are not too easy to handle. The same concept applies to women while they are dating. Girls work hard to catch the attention of a guy who is not easy than the one's who are an easy catch. So to all the nice guys out there please rethink!! If you want the girl make yourself a difficult catch. Being nice is no more a virtue and you need to change according to the situation if you want to catch the girl of your dream.

Rahul Talwar

BUT THIS IS THE SOLUTION

HOW TO BE VICTORIOUS IN LOVE:

But with those who have made an impression upon your heart, I have noticed that you are timid. This quality might affect a bourgeois, but you must attack the heart of a woman of the world with those weapons... I tell you on behalf of women: there is not one of us who does not prefer a little rough handling to too much consideration. Men lose through blundering more hearts than virtues saves. The more timidity a lover shows with us the more it concerns our pride to goad him on; the more respect he has for our resistance, the more we demand of him. We would willingly say to you men: "Ah, in pity' name do not suppose us to be so very virtous; you are forcing us to have too much of it..."
We  are continually struggling to hide the fact the fact that we have permitted ourselves to be loved. Put a woman in a position to say that she has yielded only to a species of violence, or to surprise: persuade her that you do not undervalue her, and I will answer for her heart... A little more boldness on your part would put you both at your ease. Always remember that "a reasonable man in love may act like a madman, but he should not and cannot act like an idiot"
YOU NOW KNOW WHAT TO DO, hmmmm